Should an interracial couple get married at a beautiful - and otherwise perfect - wedding venue named after Confederate General Robert E. Lee?
In my Southern hometown, the most conveniently-located venue that also meets our specifics (pretty, outdoors, fits our guest list) is a big, historic house in a small park named after Robert E. Lee.
It gets worse.
- The park has a statute of him on his horse.
- One wing of the house is named after him.
- In the 1930's, the statute was commissioned and the park renamed in his honor following a campaign by a women's group who were dedicated to "preserving the culture, history, traditions, and spirit of the South."
Other than that, it's perfect and way better than the other venues in consideration.
Should we nix it? Would our East Coast wedding guest contigent be too offended?
Or should we book the place anyway -- but put a sombrero on the statute, drape a Thai flag over it, and/or rename it the Bruce Lee Park for one night?
P.S. Fifty-percent of the wedding couple is not white.